In The Matrix, déjà vu isn’t just a weird feeling—it’s a glitch in the system, proof that something is being rewritten behind the scenes. You see the same black cat walk by twice?
Congratulations, the simulation is glitching, and reality is about to get a major update (probably not in your favor).
Now, take that same concept and apply it to a relationship with a narcissist. That déjà vu you feel? That’s not just a random moment—it’s your brain trying to tell you that you’ve been here before. Same script, different day.
The Infinite Rerun Cycle 🎡
A narcissistic relationship runs on predictable, exhausting loops—kind of like that one TV show that should’ve ended seasons ago but somehow keeps getting renewed. And just like in The Matrix, once you start recognizing the patterns, you realize the whole thing is rigged. Here’s the cycle:
1️⃣ Love-Bombing – The trailer that looks too good to be true. At first, they’re everything you ever wanted. Compliments? Endless. Attention? Nonstop. They mirror your personality so well, you start to wonder if you’ve met your soulmate. Spoiler alert: You haven’t.
Welcome to the honeymoon phase, where the narcissist puts on the performance of a lifetime. Love bombing is their opening act, and it’s flawless.
🔥 Endless compliments: “I’ve never met anyone like you.”
🔥 Grand gestures: They make you feel like the main character in a rom-com.
🔥 Intense chemistry: It’s too good to be true—because it is.At this point, your brain is high on dopamine, convinced you’ve found The One™. Meanwhile, the narcissist? They’re just setting up their next supply source.
2️⃣ Devaluation – The plot twist you didn’t see coming. One day, they go from worshiping the ground you walk on to acting like you’re an inconvenience. Suddenly, your jokes aren’t funny, your opinions don’t matter, and your feelings? Cute, but irrelevant. You’re now officially in The Matrix’s “Agent Smith” phase, where they start rewriting reality to make you feel like you are the problem.
Remember that matrix glitch feeling? This is where it kicks in. One day, you go from being the center of their universe to an inconvenience they barely tolerate.
👀 The eye rolls start.
📉 The affection drops.
🙃 The gaslighting begins.They used to hang onto every word you said. Now, suddenly, you’re “too sensitive” or “overreacting.” Anything that doesn’t serve their ego? Deleted from the script.
You start questioning yourself. Were you always this annoying? Is this your fault? Maybe if you try harder, they’ll love you like before? (Narrator: They won’t.)
3️⃣ Discard – The Emotional Ghosting 👻 They ghost you, cheat, or rage-quit the relationship. And just when you’re picking up the pieces, guess what? They come back.
Now comes the season finale.
They leave. Or they cheat. Or they make you feel so unwanted that you break things off, so they don’t have to be the bad guy. Either way, the narcissist disappears—off to find a fresh victim to repeat the same cycle with.
Meanwhile, you’re left staring at your phone, wondering what just happened.
But wait… here comes the plot twist.
4️⃣ Hoovering – The post-credits scene. Just when you think you’re free, they resurface with a “Hey, stranger” text or an emotional apology that almost sounds real. Why? Because they need a new season of drama, and you were a great main character.
Just when you’re finally moving on, they pop back up with:
💬 “Hey… I’ve been thinking about you.”
💬 “I miss us.”
💬 “I’ve changed.”LIES. They haven’t changed. They just ran out of supply and need a reboot. Welcome to the same toxic storyline, different season.
And here’s the worst part—if you’re not careful, you might just let them back in.
And then? The cycle starts over. Again.
Breaking the Loop – Your Own Red Pill Moment 💊
The only way to escape?
Recognize that you’re stuck in a loop—and walk away. The moment you feel that déjà vu, that deep “Wait, haven’t I been here before?” feeling—that’s your red pill moment. Take it.
Because unlike The Matrix, you don’t need to fight an entire system to break free. You just need to stop pressing “play” on the same tired storyline. 🚀
Because here’s the thing:
🛑 The narcissist won’t change.
🛑 The cycle will always repeat.
🛑 The only way to win is to stop playing.
Unlike The Matrix, you don’t have to fight an entire simulation to break free. You just have to stop pressing “replay” on the same toxic love story.
And trust me—real life is way better without the emotional rollercoaster. 🚀
Final Thoughts – Stop Watching the Rerun, Change the Channel 📺
If you keep getting déjà vu in your relationships, take the hint—it’s not fate, it’s a pattern. A narcissist isn’t some cosmic lesson you have to keep repeating until you “get it right.” You’re just stuck in a loop that only you can break.
So, what’s next? You walk away. You heal. You stop romanticizing red flags. You stop treating their return like a “sign” and start treating it like the spam email it is.
And if they pop back up with “I’ve changed”?
Just say, “New number, who dis?” and keep moving. 🚀
🔥 DISCLAIMER: DON’T SHOOT THE MESSENGER 🔥
If this article hit a little too close to home, don’t blame me—I’m just holding up the mirror. If you suddenly realize your relationship feels like a hostage situation disguised as love, don’t panic (yet). But do ask yourself: Are you living in a romance or a rerun of the same psychological horror episode?
This is NOT a replacement for therapy, but consider it a wake-up call with a side of sarcasm. If you’re stuck in the narcissistic matrix, you don’t need to decode their behavior—you need to exit the simulation. Find your Morpheus (a.k.a. a good therapist, a solid support system, or just the courage to ghost them harder than they ghosted you).
And if you are the narcissist reading this?
I already know you’re drafting an essay in your head about why this doesn’t apply to you. 😌
